Recently I read two social media posts discussing the negative impact of a positive description.
Both were about the Proverbs 31 woman.
This depiction about the kind of wife a son should be searching for has become for some the requirement for feeling worthy and valued.
It was for me.
I tied my identity to who I thought I should be.
Because I didn’t know who I already was in Christ.
Comparing and competing with her kept me in a constant state of perfectionism.
Instead of addressing my insecurities I believed if if I could be more like her I’d be more loved by Him.
I tried to perform perfectly in exchange for God’s grace.
Never truly believing I could receive it freely.
Especially with all my mistakes, baggage and past sins.
My identity was rooted in fear of rejection, people pleasing and approval addiction.
Instead of God’s unfailing love, grace and mercy.So those P31 woman verses unleashed emotions I wanted to ignore.
She became the spiritual standard I thought I had to attain to have a relationship with God.
Who knows a child better than his/her mom?
She knows their personality, quirks, habits, routines, beliefs, etc. And the kind of spouse he/she will need to enjoy life.
I believed I had to become a modern day P31 woman before I could feel valued, worthy, enough.
I didn’t know I already was. So are you.
Do you have a friend that after spending time with you feel energized?
Excited, motivated and eager to level up your own life?
You don’t want to become your friend. Or compete with her.
But she motivates you to create the life, body, wealth, business, career, family, etc you want.
As you are. Where you are. That’s the P31 woman.
On your best days and worst you are loved by Christ.
So next time you read the P31 woman depiction let her inspire you.
She’s not your judge or your competition.
But your friend cheering you on to becoming the best you possible.
And so am I!
Sandra Hubbard 
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